The Church Therapy model creates accessible mental health care within the church setting, decreasing stigma and changing a church’s internal culture around mental health issues. The presence of a therapist on a church staff provides ongoing day-to-day support and care. However, one of the best advantages of the Church Therapy model is the presence of a trained and licensed mental health professional when a crisis arises. Skills like de-escalation, crisis intervention, conflict resolution and trauma/grief processing are extremely valuable when moments of crisis occur in the church.
A couple years ago our church experienced the loss of a young woman dear to the hearts of many in our congregation. She had been with us for several years before having to move out of state with family as her health declined due to cancer. She died on a Wednesday morning, and her death became known to us that afternoon. As my husband prepared for the Wednesday night service and small group time, we realized that some people in each small group would be experiencing significant grief, while others who were more new to the congregation did not know the woman who had passed away. The small group leaders were unsure how to handle a group with such varied needs.
In talking through our options, my husband and I decided it would be best for me to lead a grief group for all who needed to process our friend’s death. About 10-12 people joined me that night, allowing the usual small groups to function as they normally would in discussion on the Bible passage presented. Those who joined me were distraught, feeling a range of emotions as anyone would in the midst of the untimely death of a young person. We walked through our initial thoughts and feelings: what was it like to hear the news? What were our first reactions? From there we shared memories and stories, moving from deep despair into laughter and joy. We found closure in thinking about what we might say to our friend if we could tell her one more thing, and we spent time in prayer for the requests that we knew were dearest to her heart.
The grief group was a healing time, met with gratefulness on the part of those who got to participate as well as on the part of the small group leaders who had felt ill-equipped to know how to help the grieving. In fact, we were able to conduct a grief group a second time more recently after another sudden, tragic death. There are many other types of crisis situations that have also arisen in our congregation, such as domestic disputes that made their way into the church auditorium, people in active psychosis attending the service, and interpersonal conflicts between church members to name a few. These situations have been handled with care and skill because of my professional training in these areas, and without those skills many of these situations could have escalated into a much worse crisis. The pastors and ministry leaders have been able to gain new crisis response skills as well, creating a broader range of people who may be a first-responder in an unexpected crisis.
